Developed and articulated by Dr. Marc Gafni in his seminal book “Your Unique Self,” the Unique Self theory started as an original enlightenment teaching with antecedents in Western and Eastern enlightenment traditions, especially the Kabbalah lineage. He integrates these teachings into a groundbreaking new perspective informed by the tensions of our modern context, namely the multiple challenges humanity is currently facing and the invitation therein to evolve.
Starting in 2013, I’ve worked closely with my colleague Barbara Alexander and Dr. Gafni to develop a coaching program integrating the theory of Unique Self and integral theory for the furtherment of human development.
All the great spiritual traditions oppose two selves: a “True Self” and a “separate” or “false” self. This latter self is made of impulses, memories, fears, and other instincts that you consider as “me”. While the separate self, and false self are distinct aspects of the personality/ego, they are both born from the illusion of being separate from the Field of Oneness/ Source/ God.
While your separate self is mortal, your True Self is eternal. It is your pure consciousness that exists outside of time. It is the essence, the source, the infinite, the sacred, the cosmos that reveals itself in you.
Your Unique Self is not your ego or personality. It is the essence that underlies your personality and extends beyond it. Dr. Gafni calls it “the personal face of essence”, or “the unique spark of God that lives in you”. Your Unique Self is the infinite love-intelligence that is all that is, that lives in you as you and through you. You are therefore unique and your uniqueness is revealed and realized throughout your life.
Your Unique Self is not your ego or personality. It is the essence that underlies your personality and extends beyond it. Dr. Gafni calls it “the personal face of essence”, or “the unique spark of God that lives in you”.
Your Unique Self is the infinite love-intelligence that is all that is, that lives in you as you and through you. You are therefore unique and your uniqueness is revealed and realized throughout your life.
Classically, awakening is described as the process of dis-identification from your ego, when you awaken to the realization that you are part of One consciousness – the Field, Source, Divinity.
However, Unique Self theory affirms that this realization is only the first step and only the beginning of the path to your full realization. In Unique Self awakening, you become aware that you are the unique expression of the universal Source of Love; this is your Unique Self.
In order to access your Unique Self and truly express it, the first step is to let go of your sole identification to your “ego” self, or Separate Self, and to realize that you are part of a whole, indivisible, infinite, absolute One field of consciousness and love.
The second step involves a process of recognizing that not only are you a part of the whole field, but you are also a unique singular, irreducible expression of that field.
By allowing their Unique Self to emerge, each human being becomes a feature of the cosmos and an element of creation and transformation. Each of us in his or her Unique Self is therefore in his or her place, in his or her life mission, in the perspective chosen by the Universe for him or her.
It is therefore incumbent upon each of us to awaken and offer to the world our particular gifts, necessary for the evolution and transformation of consciousness.
This is the Love force that animates and drives reality, which lives in you, as you, and through you, uniquely.
Your Unique Self is your unique configuration of that force.
Every human being has a unique contribution to make to the evolution of love itself. That contribution is the essence of Unique Self.
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